You think you’re judging your way to more freedom. But actually, you’re locking yourself into a prison.
Your judging habit is a virtual prison. You rarely get a chance to stop and smell the roses because your constant judging blocks you from purely experiencing what’s in front of you. Every judgment you carry is a stone that pulls you underwater. You are consumed by fears. You give away your power to that which you judge. As long as you judge, you are not free.
You cannot become free by manipulating your circumstances. It just doesn’t work. You keep thinking if you do this, and do that, and get this person to be this way, and another person to be that way, you will one day be happy and free. But in the meantime, you’re struggling and fighting and negotiating with life as it happens. Your judging keeps you stuck in the weeds of each situation. Your perspective stays small and anxious. You can never feel free when you’re so tied into what’s happening around you because you’re too attached to the outcome. You lose yourself in the stories around your circumstances. As long as you live through those stories, you’re not free.
Freedom is experiencing life without the burden of your judgments. It’s experiencing reality as it is. Freedom is staying connected to the incredible creativity and freshness and abundance of life. To be free is to trust the wisdom of your realized self, not the voices of others. Freedom is being you. To be who you are designed to be is your natural state.
Who you are is already perfect and whole. It’s how you see yourself that contains flaws and limitations. All your perceived limitations come from your judging habit. Until you break the habit, you are not free. Instead, you are dependent on acquiring things, chasing expectations, fearing change and fearing failure. Judging is a mad rollercoaster of a life.
Every situation is an opportunity for you to be a participant in life. The more you participate, the less you resist, the freer you are.
How free are you?